I have been recently observing something unpleasant in Ruby's behaviour. Not only her proactivity has reduced, her sincerity at what she is supposed to be doing has gone down too. She seems to dislike something about her job.
I can't put my finger on what's going wrong. We have been making deposits as usual. I discussed many hypotheses with Meghu (because he is interacting much more with her than me), including normal mood swings and PMS. At the same time, we have seen her still being loyal and affectionate to us in small ways. It is confusing.
But I want to address this unconscious unspoken change before it becomes too late. Nothing drastic has happened, only a few rude remarks and taunts. But what is behind this rising bitterness?
Meghu has thrown a hint (why won't he tell me straight? He is too polite to talk directly, even with me). He feels that I spend less time with her. Very well then, I am home for a couple days now due to winter break. I have a good opportunity to observe her, see if there's a pattern, talk to her and find out if there's really something or am I reacting to a false alarm.
In any case, the realisation is that relationships need constant work. You dare not take them for granted or leave them on autopilot. Constant deposits and fixing and plugging are required.
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